You’re Debating at the Wrong Level Every week I see it online, In Slack threads, group chats, from friends who “are into AI.” "Claude is better at coding.” “No, Codex is.” “No, this weird open-source model beats both.” And the debate just… spins. Benchmarks…Anecdotes…“I built a React app with it.”...“It refactored my Python better.” Here’s the uncomfortable truth. That entire conversation is happening at the wrong level. This Is a Toolbox, Not a Marriage You do not marry an